i am still here – but leaving this afternoon to get my flight out – in the meantime working away at my small tasks to get finished before i leave.
this morning i left my car at home to take the bus in from roberts creek because i didn’t want to leave the vehicle parked at the ferry terminal for two weeks. as i was crossing the street in front of the gumboot cafe to get to the bus stop, a car pulled out of the cohousing development and up to the stop sign where i was crossing. as is customary in our safe little part of the world, the guy driving the car asked me if i wanted a ride to the ferry (for where else could i be going at 5:30 in the morning with my backpack on)….
i felt no strange energy and so i got in the car with the fellow who (it turns out) is an oceanographer teaching at ubc who comes from a background of eco-activism and works with concepts of earth-literacy and community education. he is involved in the ruby lake eco-centre that is being built (and that i am super interested in being involved in), and is on the education committee. he lives with his family (two little boys and his wife) in the cohousing development down the street from my house….. basically we talked for the two hours it took to get from roberts creek to downtown vancouver (he gave me a ride straight to work which meant i didn’t have to heft the backpack onto the bus and all over the place) – and it turned out we knew a bunch of eco-people in common, shared similar political frustrations and histories, and had worked on similar projects in the past.
i like being reminded of how easily connections with others can happen – of how random the universe can be – that i would be on my way to do one thing, and allowing something to intersect with that has opened up a different set of possibilities for me – in this case, the possibility to get involved in community eco-education and maybe learn more about my neighbours.
this is very good – as it has been an idea of mine to get involved with the ruby lake project, and meeting someone who i could have an easy connection with is a definite push from the universe to get going on it – besides the fact it is really time for me to meet more people in my community and stop being such a hermit.
when the day starts off this interesting, what other chance encounters are out there?
i got home late last night smelling of curry and imprinted by my lover. suffice to say, it was a fine evening which made up for the birthday sadness (some of which was related to the combination of my desire and an inability to see him).
sometimes i think i should get a “real” (that is capital R) relationship, but unfortunately, that would likely mean giving up this man in my life right now – and although it has its furtive qualities – he does make me quite happy. having said that, i don’t feel i am closed to the possibilities of another realtionship coming into my life – but i don’t meet that many men who i like (and no, i don’t think i’m too fussy) and i’d rather not settle.
maybe that is the crux though, in that i am not unhappy on my own most of the time – so there is no reason to settle with someone who doesn’t meet my needs or desires (or who treats me badly as some men in my life over the last couple of years have seemed wont to do). i suppose the nagging worry is that while i am happy with my arrangements at 32, i might not be at 40, or 50 or 60 – what then? will i be a lonely old crone? unloved and unattended to? or is it possible to be happy without coupling for life? (i think it is, despite my mother’s warnings that reverberate through my head).
since my birthday, this has been floating around , a bit – but seeing my lover last night… well, i don’t like the idea of having to give him up – ever… which of course isn’t possible for so many reasons.
*sigh* what’s a girl to do? i suppose just let things take their own course as usual. 😉
i worked until 11 o clock this morning when our entire building was evacuated due to a “suspicious package incident”. not only 2 firetrucks, but a hazmat truck and 3 ambulances attended (not to mention numerous police).
in the end the white powder in the envelope turned out to be shredded paper. that was after they had sent us all home for the day…. oddness all around – i have pasted the cknw blurb about it below….
i think people are just a little too freaky these days myself….
Hazmat clears 19-storey tower in Vancouver
Feb, 15 2005 – 3:00 PMVANCOUVER/CKNW(AM980)
feeling very in touch with myself right at this moment – very grounded, very good. listening to the cracow klezmer band on the stereo – a birthday gift from giles. incredible violins in the eastern european style reaches right down inside me and pulls taut the band around my heart – i suppose the right feelings for valentine’s day – a heart-rapture of sorts.
the sun was out over the ice-crystaled coast today, and between that an my good mood, i was incredibly productive. dropped my mother off at the ferry this morning, got my final paper for one of my classes finished, got some errands run, did laundry, and cleaned house.
i’m starting to pull things together for my holiday, looking forward to getting on the plane and just going with the haphazard trip emerging – two weeks of seeing where i will end up each day. it has been a long time since i have gone in this direction – anticipating enjoying the time with myself and others….

this is a photograph of my great-grandma from my dad’s maternal side – ida olson (yes, she’s the one with the gun).
my mother has come for a visit this weekend and as part of my birthday gift she presented me with a slim photo album containing shots of ida’s life around 1901 in minnesota. it seems, that as a young and well-educated woman, ida ended up a teacher in a residential school (the type of live-in school where stolen indian children were sent away from their families to be stripped of their heritage and culture). this small set of quite beautiful photos contains a number of pictures of first nations people (as well as photos of ida’s house and friends) taken in that same time period. she has captioned them all in a tidy script, so we might now see something of that time and possibly understand some small shred.
what to make of this legacy? some of my family have only been on this continent for one generation, and some for several – and i have long been aware of the ways in which i have benefited from the legacy of genocide and colonialism directed against the first nations people of north america. this volume is the first indication of a family link to direct complicity in the re-education of native peoples – and for that i have a woe in recognizing that any white people who were present during those times not only had a benefit, but a direct impact on the lives of those so wholly subjugated by the ever-expanding powers.
this gift is a reminder of a cruel legacy – and for that i am glad to receive it. click *more* to see a few more photos.