Red Cedar
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There's a wedding a coming.
If you read this blog (or my facebook page, or talk to me on any kind of a regular basis) you already know that Brian and I have decided to tie the knot in the fall…. but as I’ve just booked a marriage commissioner this morning I figured it was time to let everyone know what the plans exactly are since we are having two different ceremonies.
Two? Why yes. Which is strange to me because we have ended up with two ceremonies because I didn’t want to have a wedding at all. Really, I just thought that eloping would be fine by me except that our families (and my step-daughter specifically) would have been somewhat disappointed had we done that….. But at the same time I couldn’t quite envision doing a big formal family/friends wedding that tried to be all things to all people. Brian said he didn’t care much for getting married, but if we were going to he definitely wanted some type of party to mark the occasion. Neither of us wanted the weddings we had in the past either, which were more formal than either of us had envisioned and involved a lot of stressful lead-up…. So with all that in mind we came up with the following plan.
1) September 26th. Three years exactly to the day we met we will be having our formal cermeony with a marriage commissioner and only our immediate families in attendance (parents, some sibilings, and attached children) which should top out at fifteen people. This service will take place at Point No Point which is a gorgeous little resort on the west coast of Vancouver Island and will be followed by a fire on the beach, and some sort of dinner (either formal or informal). We’ll be staying up there the night before and the night of the 26th in cozy individual cabins with their own fireplaces and hot tubs. The nice thing about Point No Point is that it has a number of luxury features while still feeling really wild and rustic. The dining room is all windows overlooking the wild pacific, the trails down below to the beach are groomed but not maincured, and the food is fabulous and all local. We’re lucky too because normally they say no to weddings but ours is so small and informal that the owners agreed it would be okay for ours.
2) October 23rd. This is the second phase of the wedding – the community ceremony! Which is going to be held in Vancouver at our home and be an informal party-style affair. Potluck appetizers and drinks, cake by our good friend Jill. Ceremony officiated by a good friend of ours who is coming from the states to do so. It’s going to be grand! And by then we should have the backyard studio completed with hot tub for those of you from out of town to stay and luxuriate in. This is really about bringing our immediate community together to witness and support our vows as we believe that the whole purpose of marriage is asking those closest to us to help us in creating a happy and everlasting relationship… So we’ll get that out of the way before the drinking commences 🙂 I will be emailing or mailing invites to this event at some point, though we’re keeping the guest list on this fairly fluid as it’s not a formal affair and we aren’t preparing a ton of food for it etc.
Luckily there’s not a ton of planning for either needed except stitching up the details and buying a dress (or dresses) which of course will not be big poofy white things, but rather decent outfits I could wear on other occassions. Even a small informal affair, however, does require some planning…. And while we’ve still got things to sort out before the fall, we’ve got lots of time to do it in.
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Red Cedar 
This made me goosebump-happy to read. Can’t wait to hear what ideas you have in mind for the cake! I’m marking October 23rd on the calendar now! xo