Red Cedar
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craigslist personals… ???
after reading about a friend’s hookups via the craigslist personals, i decided last night to give it a whirl and posted a message there to see what the uptake would be – you know, looking for a lover, don’t make my life difficult kinda thing. so far i have had 35 responses, most of them with photos.
what makes craigslist so different from other dating sites? i’ve never had nearly that kindof response… i mean, they aren’t all people i’m interested in, but there’s at least a couple who look somewhat intriguing. we shall see – i’m a bit overwhelmed at the moment and i’m suffering from a bit of a crisis in self-confidence. i shall give myself until the weekend to respond to any of them seriously.
if you want to see what i posted, look under the link.
the craigslist ad:
please don’t make it complicated
wow – life can be so complicated, and because of that i am not looking for something uber-complex at the moment, but would like to meet someone who could potentially become a steady lover either in the vancouver or sunshine coast area (i live on the coast, but work in the city).
aside from the oddness that seems to pervade my every waking minute, i pretty much have it all together – professionally-employed, well-read, technologically-competent, musician, into hiking/camping/nature pursuits, diverse musical tastes, own my own home…. i am quirky in that commercial-drive kindof way, emotionally stable, and politically left wing.
i’m reasonably attractive, with a rounded (though fit) figure, decent legs, and fill out a t-shirt well. 5’4, blue eyes, brunette.
sex and sensuality are very important to me, though i have not been giving those aspects of my life their due, having got too caught up in this living thing. i am looking for an attentive lover who is able to carry on an intelligent (and sometimes witty) conversation, and who is looking for someone to fill in the gaps with. i offer the same in return. my age preference is 30-50.
drop me a line with a picture and i will respond.
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Red Cedar 
Oh to be so honest and straightforward.
While not particularly looking for a lover, the clarity of mind (I know you don’t feel that at all) writing such a statement seems damn useful. I mean I don’t even think I know myself as well as that, let alone am I able to share such knowledge with the world.
If I may suggest, as fucked up as you feel for the moment, perhaps you should send a tiny, standard statement to each of your thirty-five eager respondents saying as much, as you explicitly said you would respond, and as many of them (at least those with my level of self-esteem) will otherwise feel they alone were too hideous to be worth it.
Hrm. That’s a fabulous personal. Funny how right after you write down that you pretty much have it all together you find out that you don’t feel like you have it together at all. Sometimes the only way to figure out what’s going on is through taking action that you immediately realize is not what you want. Lord knows I wish it weren’t, but there you have it.
I gotta admit that I’ve been browsing the craigslist personals — hey, people I know got laid, why can’t I? — but I haven’t written anything and I haven’t responded to anything because the one thing I do actually know is that my life is complicated enough right now. Wanting someone to fill in the gaps makes oh so much sense but I get the feeling that right now the gaps are where the action’s at.
–S., xo